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What Parents Must Know


When children take the contrary path to what they are taught to observe, great trouble looms. One would dissect this situation; make inquiries about why children must follow their desires when perhaps a responsible adult advised on the right thing to be done. This inquiry, unfortunately, may end in heaping blame back to that accountable adult-- the parent. But why are fingers pointed at them? It comes to three things that we are just about to delve in, but before then, take a mental picture of the community around you? Do you see children and youths who, in your fair opinion, give a more agreeable future that the society would dream of having? Or whatever you see is a failed generation held in an identity crisis, with unbecoming manners and lack of purpose in life?


Good health for children and youths likely reflect on the environment they are brought up in. Within the family circle, children learn and develop personalities that they stick with for most part of their lives. Behavioral scientists assert that roles parents play in the formative experiences of children are likely to impact on their future lives. But not that alone, the process of learning by a child depends heavily on modeling authority. A child learns by observing how members in their household interact with one another. At this point, everything sticks in their mind as they practice and imitate. This learning process can be reversed, but it takes a lot of time, energy, and the will from the person, thus it is better to ensure the child is assisted when tender than treated when they mature. Outside the home environment; the various aspects and situations that the child interacts with such as school, playgrounds, and community programs. A parent may not keep an eye on what their children do when unchaperoned. However, the responsibility still lies with them, as a rule, ignorance is no defense, and lack of knowledge attracts the worst penalty. Parents should live with the reality that the home environment will shape a child’s ideologies and how they react with others.

Parents would want their children to identify wrong from right. Early childhood is a critical stage for a child’s growth as lessons learned, and the methodologies used to determine the take-off are permanently written on a child’s brain. What then would happen to broken and distressed families? Does a child’s upbringing correlate with gender roles? Parents must realize their obligations to provide a sense of direction. Of course, children may want to try something different when not in the watch of their parents; --as behaviorists suggest, doing both good and bad brings attention to children-- it boils down to their parents to provide guidance. Parental care and advice encapsulate what care the parents should take; their invisible eye should tell them when their children join groups with evil influences, for which they should react without delay. Parents may not control the environment where their children live and interact. However, still, they can stand on guard, caution against interactions likely to disfigure morals standards for their children.

Finally, it trickles down to love and discipline for parents to get their children to follow instructions. They would want to do it effectively to avoid rebellion or feeling of ill-treatment. Parents should take an appropriate and a logical approach to handling their children; a proper understanding of developmental growth would necessitate the type of discipline to apply and to what age-group. So many perspectives from psychoanalysis, cognitive, biological to ecological tend to explain why children behave in the way they choose to, and all these theories may not apply to a given child. Therefore, parents must be ready to configure what works for their children; it would be appropriate for parents not to employ a measure that contrasts their children’s temperament. In raising a child, parents must aim to develop trust and friendship with their children since positive reinforcement yields better results. And if a child’s first circle of influence; the home setup, and interactions with the parents and siblings, is well built, adjustments to other environments would turn out positive. Parents can have a hand in influencing what happens in their community. Supporting a local soccer group, scouting clubs, contributing towards safe neighborhood through oversight groups, and participating in community health programs, can lead the society to great lengths in prosperity.

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